A&M and Texas Take Different Approaches to the Death of a Student
by JONATHAN DAMRICH
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A&M and Texas Take Different Approaches to the Death of a Student

University of Texas at Austin representatives carry flowers to the base of the flagpoles during the 2010 UT Remembers ceremony. Photo by Ralph Barrera/Austin American-Statesman, used with permission. 

 

By Jonathan Damrich
For Reporting Texas

Just as the University of Texas and Texas A&M are reputed to have different campus cultures — evident in how the universities treat politics (conservative vs. liberal) and act during football games (longstanding traditions vs. freer-flowing antics) — the schools’ differences also are made apparent by how they treat the death of a student.

Each month Texas A&M, known for its campus unity and military traditions, honors the deceased in a well-attended ceremony called Silver Taps. On a rain-soaked Tuesday evening in early April, a standing-room-only crowd of students, faculty and family members gathered at A&M’s G. Rollie White Coliseum to honor a doctoral student and four undergraduates who died in March. A&M again notes their passing at the Aggie Muster, an annual roll call of the dead.

The University of Texas at Austin handles such matters differently. Its policy calls for notifying professors, the school’s counseling and mental health center and administrators, but doesn’t include notifying the student body at large. UT lets family members determine if they want to hold an open ceremony within 60 days of the student’s death, but the student body is not notified. Each May, the school holds a single ceremony, UT Remembers, honoring all students, staff and alumni who have died in the preceding year.

The two approaches not only show contrasting attitudes toward privacy but also the different way each school’s culture has developed. Many of A&M’s traditions originated when it was an all-male military university. It ended military commitments in 1963.

A&M’s Silver Taps has been a tradition since 1898. One day each month, the names of students who died in the previous month are posted at the Memorial Student Center, Evans Library and at the base of the Academic Building’s flagpole. Campus flags are flown at half-staff throughout the day. At 10:15 p.m. chimes are played to begin a ceremony that includes buglers cloaked by the darkness playing “Silver Taps,” a special arrangement of “Taps.”

Ross Maxwell, a Texas A&M senior from Del Rio died on March 7 after battling brain cancer. “Being surrounded by over 1,000 Aggies on a stormy night to show respect to Ross and the other students that passed… was overwhelming, yet beautiful,” his mother, Sarah Maxwell, said in a telephone interview about the Silver Taps ceremony she attended. “I felt that each Aggie there was grieving with us that night and was standing with us in Ross’s absence.”

At UT, however, it’s a relatively new idea to hold a formal service for those died during the past year. UT Remembers, which began in 1998, consists of a flag-lowering ceremony in the Main Mall, a grief session held in the Main building, a fixed-price luncheon at nearby Carillon Restaurant and a service in the Tower Garden.

Additionally, friends and family also have the option of writing a message on a “memory sheet,” to be stored in the Dolph Briscoe Center for American History. The tower is left dark that night to honor those who have died, in contrast to the special illumination used for UT events such as athletic victories and graduation.

According to Christa Lopez, UT’s associate director of student emergency services, the university has no written policy governing how to notify the student body when a student dies, and chooses to “err on the side of caution and respect the families of deceased students” by not releasing the names of the deceased or holding memorial services until the end of the academic year.

For example, when undergraduate Erick Whitaker died in 2012, it fell to students to hold a small candlelit vigil in the Malcolm X Lounge in the Jester building. The university will honor him at its annual UT Remembers ceremony May 3, almost a year after he died.

Shawneequa Smith, a UT graduate who attended the event, said that she found out about the vigil through Facebook, Twitter and word of mouth from UT’s black community. “I was a little upset that the university or its publications didn’t inform us about the loss of a student,” she said. Smith added that she was surprised The Daily Texan, the campus newspaper, only gave Whitaker a short write-up two weeks after his death.

Risa Bierman, Texas A&M’s assistant coordinator of student assistance services, said her university considers it important to publicly honor any enrolled student who dies. “We always have an audience … there to be part of the Aggie family and remember that fallen Aggie,” she said.

Bierman said that A&M does not ask for permission from families, but she’s never heard from anyone who was unhappy with the policy. She said the school does not have students sign documents authorizing the release of information if they die while enrolled.

Lopez said she’s never heard any University of Texas students complain of not being notified of a classmates’ death. “We’ve always, for the most part, found when students pass away, that their close friends are close enough with the family … that they hear on Facebook or privately from those who are really in the know,” she said. “We understand it may be a surprise that someone they shared a class with a few years ago passed away, but we try to respect the family in the process.”

Lopez also said that UT is concerned that the knowledge of a fellow student’s death could be a “trigger” for other students’ problems. “We have to understand if they’re capable of processing that information,” she said. “We have to make sure we have the right resources to support hearing that news.” She pointed to the school’s Counseling and Mental Health Center as a resource for grieving students.

A&M held its annual Muster ceremony on April 21, when Ross Maxwell was among those honored. “This weekend was very emotional and I’m about spent as far as emotions go,” Sarah Maxwell, said. “Aggies go all out to make you feel loved and supported, though.”

 

 

 

 

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Welcome to Reporting Texas, a digital media initiative from the School of Journalism at the University of Texas at Austin. Reporting Texas accepts submissions from undergraduate and graduate students throughout the university, promoting engagement in the digital age of journalism.

Supported by a grant from the Carnegie Corporation of New York and its Initiative on the Future of Journalism Education, Reporting Texas serves four primary goals: To showcase the best work of our University of Texas at Austin undergraduate and graduate students; to offer quality, multimedia reporting to local, state, and national news outlets; to experiment with new approaches in journalism education; and to combine aspects of community reporting with multimedia resources.

These efforts grow out of two previous initiatives at the University of Texas at Austin School of Journalism – CapLink and the Capital News Service – in which student journalists provided free public affairs reporting to community newspapers around Texas. In that spirit, Reporting Texas offers all content free of charge to all news outlets as long as we are credited for our work.

Reporting Texas focuses on unique and often hidden stories, using text, photos, audio, and video to provide views of in-depth people and places rarely seen in the news.

If you have questions/comments, please contact one of the editors, Kathleen McElroy, who works on articles, or Mark Coddington, the Web and multimedia editor.

Also, you can check us out on Twitter.
And once again, welcome to Reporting Texas!

Who Contributes to Reporting Texas

Reporting Texas supports young journalists by fostering an ethical and creative environment for graduate and undergraduate students at the University of Texas to report the news and thereby shed light on our community and our world. Our mission is supported by a grant from the Carnegie Corporation of New York and its Initiative on the Future of Journalism Education. Reporting Texas represents a wealth of disciplines, and all students are invited to present their ideas to our editorial staff, who review and edit all submissions. We welcome reporting through traditional and novel approaches, including text, photos, slideshows, sound slides, videos and mixed media. We emphasize reporting that focuses on untold stories.

Additionally, Reporting Texas is open to mutually beneficial partnerships across a wide breadth of news outlets. For more information, please send an e-mail to Reporting Texas to contact Mark Coddington, the Web editor, and Kathleen McElroy, who handles articles.

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Navigate a Cancer Diagnosis
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How to Navigate a Cancer Diagnosis
Pioneering Psychotherapist Shares Strategies for Managing
Anxiety & Maintaining Emotional Wellness

Unlike many of the most important events in one’s life – graduation, marriage, having a child – almost no one anticipates a cancer diagnosis.

This year, nearly 239,000 U.S. men will be diagnosed with prostate cancer and more than 232,000 women will learn they have breast cancer, according the American Cancer Society. Over their lifetimes, nearly half of all men can expect a cancer diagnosis, and more than a third of women.*

“Thankfully, we now have many tools for detecting cancers early and treating them successfully. But learning you have cancer remains one of life’s most frightening and stressful experiences,” says cancer psychotherapist Dr. Niki Barr, author of “Emotional Wellness, The Other Half of Treating Cancer,” (canceremotionalwellbeing.com).

“Developing ways to help patients address their emotional well-being throughout their medical journey, still lag behind medical advances, but physicians and psychologists recognize that healing improves when both the physical and emotional needs of patients are served.”

In her years of clinical practice working exclusively with cancer patients and their loved ones, Barr developed an Emotional Wellness Toolbox that patients stock with what Barr has found to be the most effective tools.

Here are some of her tools for managing anxiety – a normal and emotionally healthy response to a cancer diagnosis, but one that can spiral out of control.

• Catch your anxious thoughts. Stop anxious thoughts – thoughts about fear, unease and worry -- before they lead to anxiety. Start by writing your thoughts down on individual note cards and identifying the first one that’s leading to you feeling anxious.  Then the next one. When you’ve identified all of your anxious thoughts, go back to the first one and, on the card, write a new thought that will not make you feel anxious. It should be a thought that is confident and empowering. Continue down the list and do the same for each anxious thought.

• Erase ‘what if’ thinking. What if the cancer has spread? What if the treatment doesn’t work? One ‘what if’ leads to another and often spirals into anxiety. Be aware when you start asking ‘what if’ and instead ask yourself, “Is this thought helping me or hurting me?” and “Is this thought moving me forward or backward?”

• Ground yourself. Interrupt a chain of anxious thoughts by focusing on details around you. Look at the color of the walls in the room you’re in; take in the pictures on the walls, the books on the shelves and the titles on their spines; look at the person you’re talking to, the color of their eyes, the clothes she’s wearing. Being very focused on external details can derail anxious thoughts.

• Use distraction. Choose a favorite place and visit it. Absorb everything about it – the colors, smells, any people involved, the sounds, tastes, how it feels. Build it up very clearly in your mind, going over and over it, so it can become a distraction tool. When you’re waiting for a medical test or procedure, undergoing a procedure, or any other time you need to “be” somewhere else, call up your distraction and visit.

Other tools for your box include meditation CDs that use guided imagery; favorite music CDs; and a journal to record your thoughts and feelings.

“Being able to manage your anxiety enables you to move forward through cancer whether patient, caregiver or family member,” Barr says.  "Don't tell yourself you can't handle whatever you're going through. Yes, you can ... five minutes at a time.”

*The data does not include non-melanoma skin cancers, the most common diagnosis.

About Niki Barr, Ph.D. (@NikiBarrPhD)

Niki Barr, Ph.D. founded a pioneering psychotherapy practice dedicated to working with cancer patients in all stages of the disease, along with their family members, caregivers and friends. In her book, she describes an "emotional wellness toolbox" patients can put together with effective and simple strategies, ready to use at any time, for helping them move forward through cancer. Dr. Barr is a dynamic and popular speaker, sharing her insights with cancer patients and clinicians across the nation.
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Taxes From Cancellation of Mortgage Debt
by DEAN ALEXANDER
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Taxes From Cancellation of Mortgage Debt


By Dean Alexander


Generally speaking if you have a debt cancellation you can expect income. So if you don’t pay your credit card debt, the credit card company will send you a 1099 for the amount of debt cancelled as though it is income you have earned. That income must be included in your tax for the year. The same thing occurred with mortgage cancellation of debt until pressure came from taxpayers years ago and congress responded by giving reprieve to mortgage cancellation of debts. But like everything else given by the government, you are extracting skin over a bone. It is painfully given. In other words there will be strings attached. Strings or no strings the change was a very welcome.


Which Debt Qualifies for Debt Forgiveness?



    1. Debt is forgiven if it is occasioned by loans on your home and the maximum loan is two million dollars (one million for married filing separately).

    1. If you have debt restructuring you may be able to exclude the amount of debt reduced (or forgiven) as a result of the debt restructure. The same thing also applies to foreclosure. If the debt that is forgiven was prompted by foreclosure on your home that debt also is not taxable. Remember that this does not apply to investment property.

    1. The rules also apply to loans resulting from financing.  This will only be applicable if you use the loan proceeds to build or make major improvements in your home. This exclusion applies only to the underlying original loan on your home that you had before refinancing. If you refinance your home for purposes other than what is listed above such as refinancing your home to pay credit card debt or even an IRS debt or back taxes, this will not qualify for the exclusion.

    1. If you are a candidate for the exclusion, use form 982 Reduction of Tax Attributes Due to Discharge of Indebtedness. This form should accompany your tax return in the year of debt cancellation.

    1. Again other debt cancellation may not be subject to the exclusion. Cancelled debts on second homes, rental business property, credit cards, and car loans do not qualify for this exclusion. You may qualify for the discharge best on other procedures or rules such as bankruptcy and liquidity problems.

    1. You will receive form 1099- Cancellation of Debt, which shows both debt forgiven and the fair market value of the property subject to debt cancellation or foreclosure.


Dean Alexander has been helping clients across the country with tax issues for over 30 years. He currently is the president of NFA Tax Help located in Houston, TX. Their website is www.resolvemytaxes.com.

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Make Fitness a Family Affair this Summer, Says TOPS
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MILWAUKEE, WI – School’s out and children have plenty of free time that can either be spent inside, lounging – or outside, making the most of the season. There are many simple ways to incorporate fitness into your family’s summer plans while still having fun together. TOPS Club, Inc. (Take Off Pounds Sensibly), the nonprofit weight-loss support organization, offers the following tips for a summer filled with family fitness.

Lead by example
An effective and easy way to get your family to be more active is to show them how. Simple activities can go a long way in teaching the importance of fitness and increased movement. When shopping together, take the stairs instead of the elevator or escalator. On nice days, park as far away from building entrances as possible. Walk and bike to places nearby - instead of hopping in the car. Little changes like these will motivate kids to opt for more active habits on their own.

Sign up for a run/walk
Summer is full of run/walks for various causes and nonprofit organizations. Decide together on some events in which you’d like to participate, whether it’s for the cause it benefits or the pure fun appeal. 5Ks are perfect for beginners, and you can train together as a family, too.

Liven up your chores list
Instead of having your children help with the typical indoor chores, get them involved in outdoor tasks. Gardening, raking, push-mowing, and anything that incorporates some movement are great ways to keep kids moving while enjoying some sun.

Be smart about gifting
When giving gifts to your family, choose things associated with activity. Some practical items disguised by fun include sports balls and nets, Slip ’n Slides, Frisbees, bicycles, inline skates, and anything that makes outdoor exercise enjoyable. The novelty factor of the “new” item can be a catalyst for getting outdoors, and it’s a convenient way to be thoughtful while also promoting physical fitness. Remember to provide protective equipment such as helmets, wrist pads, or knee pads.

Make after-dinner walks part of your routine
A simple way to get your family on the fitness track is by making a tradition of after-dinner walks. Take several fast-paced walks around the block and enjoy the opportunity to be active together as a family, while burning off some dinner calories. Also look for routes that offer a combination of inclined and flat paths, so that strong walkers are challenged but slower walkers get a rest.

TOPS Club Inc. (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) is the original weight-loss support and wellness education organization. Founded more than 65 years ago, TOPS is the only nonprofit, noncommercial weight-loss organization of its kind. TOPS promotes successful weight management with a “Real People. Real Weight Loss.®” philosophy that combines support from others at weekly chapter meetings, healthy eating, regular exercise, and wellness information. TOPS has about 150,000 members – male and female, age seven and older – in nearly 9,000 chapters throughout the United States and Canada.

Visitors are welcome to attend their first TOPS meeting free of charge. Membership is affordable at just $28 per year in the U.S. and $32 per year in Canada, plus nominal chapter fees. To find a local chapter, view www.tops.org or call (800) 932-8677.

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Time to end 14-year Juneteenth delay
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Patterson calls for placement of Texas Emancipation statues at Capitol

AUSTIN – Today, 148 years after African-Americans in Texas learned of their freedom under the Emancipation Proclamation, Texas Land Commissioner Jerry Patterson once again called on state leaders to finally honor the Juneteenth anniversary at the seat of government.

As a state Senator in 1997, Patterson was co-sponsor of a bill commissioning a five-statue monument to be placed at the Texas Capitol honoring the day Union officer Gordon Granger read the freedom statement in Galveston.

“This day is about liberty,” Patterson said, “and that is something every Texan should support. Let’s get this done.”

Noting that 14 years have passed since the statues were authorized, Patterson expressed frustration with the bureaucratic hold up.

“How can something this right be so hard to do?” asked Patterson.

The statues have been created, but have not found a permanent home. Disagreements over design of the monument led the Texas Legislature to decommission the work in 2011. But the sculptures remain the property of the state.

One of the statues, of an African-American lawmaker, stands guard in Galveston, overlooking the very spot where Texas Emancipation was first announced. The other four — portraying a preacher, a woman, a farmer, and his daughter – stood outdoors at a foundry in Bastrop, until April of this year. More recently, the statues lay on their sides and wrapped up in a state warehouse in East Austin.

“The back of a government warehouse is no place for monuments to individual liberty,” Patterson said. “Let’s reunite these statues and give Texas Emancipation the public recognition it deserves.”

 

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A&M and Texas Take Different Approaches to the Death of a Student
by JONATHAN DAMRICH
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A&M and Texas Take Different Approaches to the Death of a Student

University of Texas at Austin representatives carry flowers to the base of the flagpoles during the 2010 UT Remembers ceremony. Photo by Ralph Barrera/Austin American-Statesman, used with permission. 

 

By Jonathan Damrich
For Reporting Texas

Just as the University of Texas and Texas A&M are reputed to have different campus cultures — evident in how the universities treat politics (conservative vs. liberal) and act during football games (longstanding traditions vs. freer-flowing antics) — the schools’ differences also are made apparent by how they treat the death of a student.

Each month Texas A&M, known for its campus unity and military traditions, honors the deceased in a well-attended ceremony called Silver Taps. On a rain-soaked Tuesday evening in early April, a standing-room-only crowd of students, faculty and family members gathered at A&M’s G. Rollie White Coliseum to honor a doctoral student and four undergraduates who died in March. A&M again notes their passing at the Aggie Muster, an annual roll call of the dead.

The University of Texas at Austin handles such matters differently. Its policy calls for notifying professors, the school’s counseling and mental health center and administrators, but doesn’t include notifying the student body at large. UT lets family members determine if they want to hold an open ceremony within 60 days of the student’s death, but the student body is not notified. Each May, the school holds a single ceremony, UT Remembers, honoring all students, staff and alumni who have died in the preceding year.

The two approaches not only show contrasting attitudes toward privacy but also the different way each school’s culture has developed. Many of A&M’s traditions originated when it was an all-male military university. It ended military commitments in 1963.

A&M’s Silver Taps has been a tradition since 1898. One day each month, the names of students who died in the previous month are posted at the Memorial Student Center, Evans Library and at the base of the Academic Building’s flagpole. Campus flags are flown at half-staff throughout the day. At 10:15 p.m. chimes are played to begin a ceremony that includes buglers cloaked by the darkness playing “Silver Taps,” a special arrangement of “Taps.”

Ross Maxwell, a Texas A&M senior from Del Rio died on March 7 after battling brain cancer. “Being surrounded by over 1,000 Aggies on a stormy night to show respect to Ross and the other students that passed… was overwhelming, yet beautiful,” his mother, Sarah Maxwell, said in a telephone interview about the Silver Taps ceremony she attended. “I felt that each Aggie there was grieving with us that night and was standing with us in Ross’s absence.”

At UT, however, it’s a relatively new idea to hold a formal service for those died during the past year. UT Remembers, which began in 1998, consists of a flag-lowering ceremony in the Main Mall, a grief session held in the Main building, a fixed-price luncheon at nearby Carillon Restaurant and a service in the Tower Garden.

Additionally, friends and family also have the option of writing a message on a “memory sheet,” to be stored in the Dolph Briscoe Center for American History. The tower is left dark that night to honor those who have died, in contrast to the special illumination used for UT events such as athletic victories and graduation.

According to Christa Lopez, UT’s associate director of student emergency services, the university has no written policy governing how to notify the student body when a student dies, and chooses to “err on the side of caution and respect the families of deceased students” by not releasing the names of the deceased or holding memorial services until the end of the academic year.

For example, when undergraduate Erick Whitaker died in 2012, it fell to students to hold a small candlelit vigil in the Malcolm X Lounge in the Jester building. The university will honor him at its annual UT Remembers ceremony May 3, almost a year after he died.

Shawneequa Smith, a UT graduate who attended the event, said that she found out about the vigil through Facebook, Twitter and word of mouth from UT’s black community. “I was a little upset that the university or its publications didn’t inform us about the loss of a student,” she said. Smith added that she was surprised The Daily Texan, the campus newspaper, only gave Whitaker a short write-up two weeks after his death.

Risa Bierman, Texas A&M’s assistant coordinator of student assistance services, said her university considers it important to publicly honor any enrolled student who dies. “We always have an audience … there to be part of the Aggie family and remember that fallen Aggie,” she said.

Bierman said that A&M does not ask for permission from families, but she’s never heard from anyone who was unhappy with the policy. She said the school does not have students sign documents authorizing the release of information if they die while enrolled.

Lopez said she’s never heard any University of Texas students complain of not being notified of a classmates’ death. “We’ve always, for the most part, found when students pass away, that their close friends are close enough with the family … that they hear on Facebook or privately from those who are really in the know,” she said. “We understand it may be a surprise that someone they shared a class with a few years ago passed away, but we try to respect the family in the process.”

Lopez also said that UT is concerned that the knowledge of a fellow student’s death could be a “trigger” for other students’ problems. “We have to understand if they’re capable of processing that information,” she said. “We have to make sure we have the right resources to support hearing that news.” She pointed to the school’s Counseling and Mental Health Center as a resource for grieving students.

A&M held its annual Muster ceremony on April 21, when Ross Maxwell was among those honored. “This weekend was very emotional and I’m about spent as far as emotions go,” Sarah Maxwell, said. “Aggies go all out to make you feel loved and supported, though.”

 

 

 

 

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Welcome to Reporting Texas, a digital media initiative from the School of Journalism at the University of Texas at Austin. Reporting Texas accepts submissions from undergraduate and graduate students throughout the university, promoting engagement in the digital age of journalism.

Supported by a grant from the Carnegie Corporation of New York and its Initiative on the Future of Journalism Education, Reporting Texas serves four primary goals: To showcase the best work of our University of Texas at Austin undergraduate and graduate students; to offer quality, multimedia reporting to local, state, and national news outlets; to experiment with new approaches in journalism education; and to combine aspects of community reporting with multimedia resources.

These efforts grow out of two previous initiatives at the University of Texas at Austin School of Journalism – CapLink and the Capital News Service – in which student journalists provided free public affairs reporting to community newspapers around Texas. In that spirit, Reporting Texas offers all content free of charge to all news outlets as long as we are credited for our work.

Reporting Texas focuses on unique and often hidden stories, using text, photos, audio, and video to provide views of in-depth people and places rarely seen in the news.

If you have questions/comments, please contact one of the editors, Kathleen McElroy, who works on articles, or Mark Coddington, the Web and multimedia editor.

Also, you can check us out on Twitter.
And once again, welcome to Reporting Texas!

Who Contributes to Reporting Texas

Reporting Texas supports young journalists by fostering an ethical and creative environment for graduate and undergraduate students at the University of Texas to report the news and thereby shed light on our community and our world. Our mission is supported by a grant from the Carnegie Corporation of New York and its Initiative on the Future of Journalism Education. Reporting Texas represents a wealth of disciplines, and all students are invited to present their ideas to our editorial staff, who review and edit all submissions. We welcome reporting through traditional and novel approaches, including text, photos, slideshows, sound slides, videos and mixed media. We emphasize reporting that focuses on untold stories.

Additionally, Reporting Texas is open to mutually beneficial partnerships across a wide breadth of news outlets. For more information, please send an e-mail to Reporting Texas to contact Mark Coddington, the Web editor, and Kathleen McElroy, who handles articles.

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Navigate a Cancer Diagnosis
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How to Navigate a Cancer Diagnosis
Pioneering Psychotherapist Shares Strategies for Managing
Anxiety & Maintaining Emotional Wellness

Unlike many of the most important events in one’s life – graduation, marriage, having a child – almost no one anticipates a cancer diagnosis.

This year, nearly 239,000 U.S. men will be diagnosed with prostate cancer and more than 232,000 women will learn they have breast cancer, according the American Cancer Society. Over their lifetimes, nearly half of all men can expect a cancer diagnosis, and more than a third of women.*

“Thankfully, we now have many tools for detecting cancers early and treating them successfully. But learning you have cancer remains one of life’s most frightening and stressful experiences,” says cancer psychotherapist Dr. Niki Barr, author of “Emotional Wellness, The Other Half of Treating Cancer,” (canceremotionalwellbeing.com).

“Developing ways to help patients address their emotional well-being throughout their medical journey, still lag behind medical advances, but physicians and psychologists recognize that healing improves when both the physical and emotional needs of patients are served.”

In her years of clinical practice working exclusively with cancer patients and their loved ones, Barr developed an Emotional Wellness Toolbox that patients stock with what Barr has found to be the most effective tools.

Here are some of her tools for managing anxiety – a normal and emotionally healthy response to a cancer diagnosis, but one that can spiral out of control.

• Catch your anxious thoughts. Stop anxious thoughts – thoughts about fear, unease and worry -- before they lead to anxiety. Start by writing your thoughts down on individual note cards and identifying the first one that’s leading to you feeling anxious.  Then the next one. When you’ve identified all of your anxious thoughts, go back to the first one and, on the card, write a new thought that will not make you feel anxious. It should be a thought that is confident and empowering. Continue down the list and do the same for each anxious thought.

• Erase ‘what if’ thinking. What if the cancer has spread? What if the treatment doesn’t work? One ‘what if’ leads to another and often spirals into anxiety. Be aware when you start asking ‘what if’ and instead ask yourself, “Is this thought helping me or hurting me?” and “Is this thought moving me forward or backward?”

• Ground yourself. Interrupt a chain of anxious thoughts by focusing on details around you. Look at the color of the walls in the room you’re in; take in the pictures on the walls, the books on the shelves and the titles on their spines; look at the person you’re talking to, the color of their eyes, the clothes she’s wearing. Being very focused on external details can derail anxious thoughts.

• Use distraction. Choose a favorite place and visit it. Absorb everything about it – the colors, smells, any people involved, the sounds, tastes, how it feels. Build it up very clearly in your mind, going over and over it, so it can become a distraction tool. When you’re waiting for a medical test or procedure, undergoing a procedure, or any other time you need to “be” somewhere else, call up your distraction and visit.

Other tools for your box include meditation CDs that use guided imagery; favorite music CDs; and a journal to record your thoughts and feelings.

“Being able to manage your anxiety enables you to move forward through cancer whether patient, caregiver or family member,” Barr says.  "Don't tell yourself you can't handle whatever you're going through. Yes, you can ... five minutes at a time.”

*The data does not include non-melanoma skin cancers, the most common diagnosis.

About Niki Barr, Ph.D. (@NikiBarrPhD)

Niki Barr, Ph.D. founded a pioneering psychotherapy practice dedicated to working with cancer patients in all stages of the disease, along with their family members, caregivers and friends. In her book, she describes an "emotional wellness toolbox" patients can put together with effective and simple strategies, ready to use at any time, for helping them move forward through cancer. Dr. Barr is a dynamic and popular speaker, sharing her insights with cancer patients and clinicians across the nation.
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Taxes From Cancellation of Mortgage Debt
by DEAN ALEXANDER
Jun 19, 2013 | 74 views | 0 0 comments | 7 7 recommendations | email to a friend | print


Taxes From Cancellation of Mortgage Debt


By Dean Alexander


Generally speaking if you have a debt cancellation you can expect income. So if you don’t pay your credit card debt, the credit card company will send you a 1099 for the amount of debt cancelled as though it is income you have earned. That income must be included in your tax for the year. The same thing occurred with mortgage cancellation of debt until pressure came from taxpayers years ago and congress responded by giving reprieve to mortgage cancellation of debts. But like everything else given by the government, you are extracting skin over a bone. It is painfully given. In other words there will be strings attached. Strings or no strings the change was a very welcome.


Which Debt Qualifies for Debt Forgiveness?



    1. Debt is forgiven if it is occasioned by loans on your home and the maximum loan is two million dollars (one million for married filing separately).

    1. If you have debt restructuring you may be able to exclude the amount of debt reduced (or forgiven) as a result of the debt restructure. The same thing also applies to foreclosure. If the debt that is forgiven was prompted by foreclosure on your home that debt also is not taxable. Remember that this does not apply to investment property.

    1. The rules also apply to loans resulting from financing.  This will only be applicable if you use the loan proceeds to build or make major improvements in your home. This exclusion applies only to the underlying original loan on your home that you had before refinancing. If you refinance your home for purposes other than what is listed above such as refinancing your home to pay credit card debt or even an IRS debt or back taxes, this will not qualify for the exclusion.

    1. If you are a candidate for the exclusion, use form 982 Reduction of Tax Attributes Due to Discharge of Indebtedness. This form should accompany your tax return in the year of debt cancellation.

    1. Again other debt cancellation may not be subject to the exclusion. Cancelled debts on second homes, rental business property, credit cards, and car loans do not qualify for this exclusion. You may qualify for the discharge best on other procedures or rules such as bankruptcy and liquidity problems.

    1. You will receive form 1099- Cancellation of Debt, which shows both debt forgiven and the fair market value of the property subject to debt cancellation or foreclosure.


Dean Alexander has been helping clients across the country with tax issues for over 30 years. He currently is the president of NFA Tax Help located in Houston, TX. Their website is www.resolvemytaxes.com.

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Make Fitness a Family Affair this Summer, Says TOPS
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MILWAUKEE, WI – School’s out and children have plenty of free time that can either be spent inside, lounging – or outside, making the most of the season. There are many simple ways to incorporate fitness into your family’s summer plans while still having fun together. TOPS Club, Inc. (Take Off Pounds Sensibly), the nonprofit weight-loss support organization, offers the following tips for a summer filled with family fitness.

Lead by example
An effective and easy way to get your family to be more active is to show them how. Simple activities can go a long way in teaching the importance of fitness and increased movement. When shopping together, take the stairs instead of the elevator or escalator. On nice days, park as far away from building entrances as possible. Walk and bike to places nearby - instead of hopping in the car. Little changes like these will motivate kids to opt for more active habits on their own.

Sign up for a run/walk
Summer is full of run/walks for various causes and nonprofit organizations. Decide together on some events in which you’d like to participate, whether it’s for the cause it benefits or the pure fun appeal. 5Ks are perfect for beginners, and you can train together as a family, too.

Liven up your chores list
Instead of having your children help with the typical indoor chores, get them involved in outdoor tasks. Gardening, raking, push-mowing, and anything that incorporates some movement are great ways to keep kids moving while enjoying some sun.

Be smart about gifting
When giving gifts to your family, choose things associated with activity. Some practical items disguised by fun include sports balls and nets, Slip ’n Slides, Frisbees, bicycles, inline skates, and anything that makes outdoor exercise enjoyable. The novelty factor of the “new” item can be a catalyst for getting outdoors, and it’s a convenient way to be thoughtful while also promoting physical fitness. Remember to provide protective equipment such as helmets, wrist pads, or knee pads.

Make after-dinner walks part of your routine
A simple way to get your family on the fitness track is by making a tradition of after-dinner walks. Take several fast-paced walks around the block and enjoy the opportunity to be active together as a family, while burning off some dinner calories. Also look for routes that offer a combination of inclined and flat paths, so that strong walkers are challenged but slower walkers get a rest.

TOPS Club Inc. (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) is the original weight-loss support and wellness education organization. Founded more than 65 years ago, TOPS is the only nonprofit, noncommercial weight-loss organization of its kind. TOPS promotes successful weight management with a “Real People. Real Weight Loss.®” philosophy that combines support from others at weekly chapter meetings, healthy eating, regular exercise, and wellness information. TOPS has about 150,000 members – male and female, age seven and older – in nearly 9,000 chapters throughout the United States and Canada.

Visitors are welcome to attend their first TOPS meeting free of charge. Membership is affordable at just $28 per year in the U.S. and $32 per year in Canada, plus nominal chapter fees. To find a local chapter, view www.tops.org or call (800) 932-8677.

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Time to end 14-year Juneteenth delay
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Patterson calls for placement of Texas Emancipation statues at Capitol

AUSTIN – Today, 148 years after African-Americans in Texas learned of their freedom under the Emancipation Proclamation, Texas Land Commissioner Jerry Patterson once again called on state leaders to finally honor the Juneteenth anniversary at the seat of government.

As a state Senator in 1997, Patterson was co-sponsor of a bill commissioning a five-statue monument to be placed at the Texas Capitol honoring the day Union officer Gordon Granger read the freedom statement in Galveston.

“This day is about liberty,” Patterson said, “and that is something every Texan should support. Let’s get this done.”

Noting that 14 years have passed since the statues were authorized, Patterson expressed frustration with the bureaucratic hold up.

“How can something this right be so hard to do?” asked Patterson.

The statues have been created, but have not found a permanent home. Disagreements over design of the monument led the Texas Legislature to decommission the work in 2011. But the sculptures remain the property of the state.

One of the statues, of an African-American lawmaker, stands guard in Galveston, overlooking the very spot where Texas Emancipation was first announced. The other four — portraying a preacher, a woman, a farmer, and his daughter – stood outdoors at a foundry in Bastrop, until April of this year. More recently, the statues lay on their sides and wrapped up in a state warehouse in East Austin.

“The back of a government warehouse is no place for monuments to individual liberty,” Patterson said. “Let’s reunite these statues and give Texas Emancipation the public recognition it deserves.”

 

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