I dislike admitting my mistakes. I scolded my husband for throwing away some coupons this week. I told him the coupons were good for a year. He protested and told me they had already expired. Long story short, I was wrong.
We all make mistakes. How we handle ourselves afterwards is what matters. I admitted I was wrong even though I didn’t have to. I also apologized. I was quickly forgiven. I truly appreciated it.
I think there is a big difference between making a mistake and having character flaws. Sometimes people’s character flaws are classified as mistakes.
I recently saw a young girl’s social media post about how much she loves the singer Chris Brown. She went on and on about how she forgave him for his mistake of hitting his former girlfriend Rihanna. She also mentioned how now that Rihanna has taken Chris Brown back, everyone else should also forgive him.
I do not agree. First, I don’t classify a man abusing a woman as a mistake. I classify it as a character flaw. Secondly, I don’t approve of young girls looking up to people who have major character flaws.
I talked to her about my objections and they fell on deaf ears. She said everyone makes mistakes and the Bible says everyone should be forgiven. This young lady also mentioned how Rihanna wasn’t an innocent party in the event. I am sad to report that everything I said made no difference in her views on domestic violence. The bottom line was she didn’t consider what happened between Chris Brown and Rihanna domestic violence. There was no reasoning with her.
I don’t know what happened that night between Brown and Rihanna. I don’t have a clue of how they live their lives or anything about them personally. All I know is when a teenager in high school views of domestic violence is skewed because of an incident involving celebrities, something is wrong.
I think it is very important that everyone, especially young adults know the difference between mistakes and character flaws. As I bring up my son, I hope I can teach him the difference.
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